I love you, Conor."The item that raises the most questions is a list Ann apparently made for Conor, outlining her expectations.In brightly colored markers, and using hearts for bullet points, she wrote "The List" on a sheet of notebook paper and spelled out her desires."No aggressive cursing, no negative comments on physical appearance, no negative comments on relationship, no falling asleep on the phone while talking to me, no running away from our problems."At the bottom under the heading "Never Again," Ann wrote the following: "Physical (sic) harm me, look at porn, cheat, try ending us due to anger, yell at me, keep me in the dark."In the days before Ann was shot, tension was growing in the couple's relationship. Calls from the jail are limited to 15 minutes, so I immediately started the interview by asking the question I thought my readers would ask, if given the opportunity."How did this happen?She and Conor were full-time students at Tallahassee Community College, working on associate degrees.
They weren't just good kids; Ann and Conor were leaders.
Ann loved working behind the scenes in theater, but ventured into acting as a senior and was named Leon High's Thespian of the Year.
I don't know if it was an addiction, but it could get kind of extreme sometimes."When Conor shot Ann, shock washed over Tallahassee.
The couple's friends, a former teacher and other acquaintances said there were no warning signs; they never saw this coming.
Below are some of the disturbing statistics on teen domestic violence: Teen dating violence is a pattern of over-controlling behavior that someone uses against a partner.
It does not always pertain to physical abuse but can also translate to mental/emotional abuse and sexual abuse.
A few weeks later, he was listed as a new member of the National Honor Society. Text messages and handwritten notes recovered after the shooting point to an unhealthy and, at times perhaps, abusive relationship.
It seems the two were trying to keep their relationship together, that they were overly dependent on each other and that their problems exceeded their maturity.
I did, and the call was passed through."Hello, is this Ms. "To be straight up, I had anger management issues, and I lost control.
And that's actually one of the things that the Grosmaires want out of the restorative justice plea, is the anger management (counseling), and I really need that so ..." His voice trailed off.
While the Grosmaire and Mc Bride families have a poignant message of forgiveness and love to share, I cannot overlook that this story is also about teen dating violence.