We have been divorced for 2 years and although it saddens me that my family has been broken apart, I am happy that my ex and I have have managed to be civil enough to make it okay for the kids.
Here is what I have found: For single men the options are plentiful. It seems that the breakdown of available women fall into the following categories: 1.
In fact, many fertility problems we ascribe to maternal age may actually be exaggerated.
Because women usually date men older than them, the trouble they have conceiving is due to the age of both partners. I’m getting a bit bored dating 35 year olds who want kids “one day.” Truthfully, more than anything else, it’s the complete lack of effort that’s really off-putting. Option 1 is “trapping” some guy into having kids with me because he lacks the self awareness to plan for it himself.
Be cautious men, these women are looking for you to do it all over again and that means house and children.
Sure it will start with great sex and they will make you feel “alive” and young but proceed with caution.
We have all heard about how easy it is for a man to start dating in his fifties and how there are plenty of women to choose from. Early 30’s and never been married – these women must have “daddy issues”.
Their desire to be with men 15-20 years their senior means they are looking for someone to take care of them both financially and personally.
Yes they do want you to help raise their kids and do it all over again. If you have money, well that just makes you more attractive. Women in their 50’s – these women are your age and there are many available in this group.
(yes I do fall into this category) Chances are good that these women have older kids who are well on their way and don’t really want your input on their children.
Financially that just doesn’t make sense.”Or, I’d get messages from guys 20 years older than me who didn’t want to date women their own age because they looked “busted.”Or, I’ll talk to male friends who think their romantic relationships are “the most important” factor in their personal happiness, but work 70 hour weeks and devote zero energy to learning the skills of making relationships work. the end result of this is that a lot of men who want kids won’t be able to have kids.