"I actually had a friend suggest that he should create a profile 'to see what's out there.' Never did it occur to him that people he knows may see that he's 'looking.' While it might seem harmless if you don't do something, it isn't harmless.Actions always have consequences, especially today with technology being how it is."Of course, it's not uncommon to have fantasies about people other than your partner — or even have a crush while you're in a relationship.
At the end of the day, only you two can decide where to draw the line when it comes to what's acceptable around micro-cheating, and infidelity in general.
"Ultimately, if you are not sure if you're micro-cheating, you should ask your partner," Dr. "If there is hesitancy in doing so, chances are you are cheating." Plus, there's also good old-fashioned guilt, so that's another determining factor, I think.
Of course, only you and your partner can decide what you two consider to be cheating, but micro-cheating switches things up even more when it comes to defining infidelity.
Melanie Schilling, dating expert, spoke to Huff Post Australia about it.
When it comes to dating today, it seems as though absolutely everyone is unsatisfied or completely unable to speak up and explain how they truly feel about another person.
There are dozens of ‘phrases’ that describe the passive-aggressive ways we basically hurt other people because we don’t have the guts to tell them we’re no longer interested in the relationship and feel it’s best to move on.So many of us do it from time to time, but, as you may know, this can quickly lead you down a rabbit hole. Flores, clinical psychologist and author of Facehooked: How Facebook Affects Our Emotions, Relationships, and Lives, agrees.And, the more you fall into the rabbit hole of your past (i.e., your ex), the more you lose sight of your present (i.e., your current partner) — especially if you're hoping they're available. "An example of micro-cheating is when you want to flirt with your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, and so you find yourself browsing your ex's Facebook profile for signs of an unhappy marriage or relationship," she tells Bustle."The first step is, it is vital that a couple each express and define what 'loyalty' and 'disloyalty' means to them — whether we're talking about physical, emotional, or micro-cheating," Shlomo Zalman Bregman, Rabbi, matchmaker, and relationship expert, tells Bustle."I've observed that many couples badly hurt one another accidentally, by saying or doing things that violate the other party's sense of fidelity, because each one is operating with a different definition of what 'cheating' or 'loyalty' is about."I could not agree with Rabbi Bregman more — so many couples, at least ones I know, have conflicts due to unclear definitions, whether they're cheating-related definitions or not.I'm sure you can think back to your own romantic relationships, too, and see where some things were not as well-defined as others.