It’s 1944, after all, and it’s scandalous for an unmarried woman to spend the night with a man.But since it’s obvious to her date that she really does want to stay, he feels no compunction about pressuring her — and she’s also more than happy to be given an excuse to do what she wants to do anyway.
Sure, she My mother will start to worry (beautiful, what's your hurry? )At least I'm gonna say that I tried (what's the sense in hurtin' my pride?
)My father will be pacing the floor (listen to the fireplace roar)So really I'd better scurry (beautiful, please don't hurry)But maybe just a half a drink more (put some records on while I pour)The neighbors might think (baby, it's bad out there)Say, what's in this drink? She’s trapped, and he knows it, and he’s basically gloating about it. )I really can't stay (oh, baby, don't hold out)But baby, it's cold outside I simply must go (but baby, it's cold outside)The answer is no (but baby, it's cold outside)Your welcome has been (how lucky that you dropped in)So nice and warm (look out the window at this dawn) ROMANTIC: She’s clearly into him.
I really can't stay (but baby, it's cold outside)I've got to go away (but baby, it's cold outside)This evening has been (been hoping that you'd drop in)So very nice (I'll hold your hands, they're just like ice) ROMANTIC: Aww, she had a nice time and doesn’t really want to leave! RAPEY: Yikes, he’s starting to put pressure on her to stay; that’s not cool. ” used to be a stock joke to which the punchline was basically, “Nothing, not even much alcohol.” As one anonymous blogger put it, “It is not a joke about how she’s drunk and about to be raped.
Women are socialized to be polite (and even a little flirtatious) when rejecting a man’s advances to avoid making him angry (or even violent). It’s a joke about how she’s perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because she’s living in a society where women aren’t supposed to have sexual agency.” Plus, getting another drink is I wish I knew how (your eyes are like starlight now)To break this spell (I'll take your hat, your hair looks swell)I ought to say, no, no, no, sir (mind if I move in closer?
a little The guy ignores his date’s protests and badgers her to stay, which feels a lot like sexual coercion.
At one point the woman asks, “Say, what’s in this drink?” — which is pretty alarming to a modern audience that understands how roofies work.The original score even lists the man’s part as “Wolf” and the woman’s part as “Mouse,” making the predator/prey dynamic creepily explicit.(no cabs to be had out there) RAPEY: WHAT’S IN THIS DRINK?! She’s under the “spell” of attraction, and she knows she to say no, but she doesn’t want to. She says “no, no, no,” but he blatantly ignores that and just swoops in before she has a chance to tell him whether she minds or not.“At least I’m gonna say that I tried” feels like a shrug. And he seems to care a lot more about his “pride” than her consent.The song’s legions of defenders argue that those concerns are overblown. ” was a common joke in the 1930s and ’40s made by people who wanted to make an excuse for something that they knew very well they shouldn’t be doing.