In fact we’ve noticed more and more female members telling us they want a man with experience, be it a divorced man or someone older.’High-profile Pumas include Brian Ferry’s second wife Amanda Sheppard, who, at 29, is 36 years his junior, and Paul Mc Cartney’s third wife Nancy Shevell, who is 51 —17 years younger than the former Beatle.
Sabine has never been happier in a relationship and hopes she and Steve — who has a 21-year-old son from his first marriage and a two-year-old boy from his third — will one day marry and have children of their own.‘Steve’s friends call him “Lord of the Rings” because he’s been married so often and have warned him off rushing into another wedding,’ laughs Sabine.
Before meeting him, Rachel, a 41-year-old PA, had already decided that her next partner would be a divorcee.
‘Looking young for my age means I’ve always attracted toyboys, and I’ve met my fair share of commitment-phobes,’ says Rachel.
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And while Steve would eventually like to move to Australia to be a closer to his son, Sabine enjoys being in London.‘As a divorcee, it’s easy to see how things should have been done differently,’ he says.
‘The best way to learn is through experience, and if you’re still in the market for finding love again, you’re likely to work harder next time around.’According to Denise Knowles, a relationship counsellor with Relate, divorcees are often more open to settling down than those who have never been in committed relationships, which may be what increases their appeal to women when their biological clocks start ticking.
‘It crosses my mind that if a previous marriage failed it might not work out with me, but you have to look at the reasons behind a divorce and learn from them.
Dr Alistair Ross, a chartered psychologist specialising in inter-personal relationships at London’s King’s College, says that some divorcees can be more wary of committing than those who have never married.
Qualities that make divorcees more eligible in the eyes of a Puma include greater relationship experience, the likelihood they will be more sensitive to their partner’s needs, and that they have demonstrated serious commitment in the past.
Sceptics would argue a Pumas’ outlook is more one of hope over experience, as while these men have proved their willingness to walk up the aisle, they have failed to make marriages work and often come with a lot of baggage.
‘I’m really quite shy and didn’t want to rush into jumping into bed with Mark and he was very patient, waiting over a month before he even kissed me,’ says Kimbalee.