Another app, Furendo Tossu (or “Friend Toss,” from the word Japanese people use for a volleyball pass), is a site for meeting new people with common interests, ostensibly as friends.
The country is in the middle of something of a sex crisis.
Its birthrate is among the lowest on earth, and the number of marriages is in decline.
I decide to be up front with her about my intentions (journalistic, not romantic) and send a note explaining that I’m a writer from New York who’s interested in talking to her about her experiences.
Soon my inbox bleeps with a message–not from her, but from the site, whose strict rules I have unwittingly violated.
But I wasn’t really attracted to her in person, so I said no.”Onuki is a rarity in Japan: Somebody who will openly discuss meeting romantic partners online.
On a recent trip there, I often asked people if they or their friends were involved with web dating, and time and again they shook their heads.
Hence the bridal marketing and fems-use-for-free policy.
Pairs does not consider itself deiaikei for this reason, he explains.
That fee includes 12 “likes”: If you like someone’s profile and they like you back, you can send a message and go from there.
Pairs presents itself modestly; its website is covered with Western-style wedding dresses and veils.
So I decide to try out Pairs, a dating application linked to Facebook that, along with Match Alarm, Niku Kai, and Yahoo Omiai, is one of the country’s most popular.