Energetic romping aside, a young admirer is a welcome alternative to the more vintage male, especially in the spontaneity department (if you disagree and would rather bag a silver fox, then get involved in the older dating scene now! The chances are that a younger man hasn’t had the time to accumulate the emotional baggage that comes with growing old either.In conversation, Ganahl, who’s written extensively on older woman/younger man relationships, proposes an astute plus-side: “Younger men were raised by mothers during or after the women’s movement,” she says, “therefore, many tend to be far less sexist than their fathers, and not as preoccupied with money and status." A word of warning though: watch out for boastful boys who’re just out to get bragging rights over their mates.“For most women, aging means a humiliating process of gradual sexual disqualification,” she scathingly wrote, “society is much more permissive about aging men.” Marine builds on Sontag’s earlier woes: “Many people are still shocked to see an older woman with a younger man,” she says, “they might think ‘what if that was my mother, or my son! In fact, research carried out last summer by Mc Gill University’s Milaine Alarie and Jason Carmichael concludes otherwise4.
First off, the very word ‘cougar’ is most certainly moot.
Without getting too entangled in semantics, Elite Singles resident psychologist, Salama Marine, is quick to discuss this point.
So, if women from all walks of life are ignoring the stigma and romancing with the more youthful cohort of the male population, it begs the question; what’s the appeal?
You don’t need to be too imaginative to picture what the benefits of an older woman/younger man relationship might be.
Why is it still such a sensational topic and what are the perks (and pitfalls) of entering into partnership where age knows no bounds?
It’s been eight years since Newsweek famously proclaimed 2009 as the year of the cougar.
However, what’s actually going on underneath the pop-style commentary and tabloid tales of ‘cougars’ and their ‘cubs’?
In search of clarity, we set out on a mission to look beyond the loaded monikers and dubious hype surrounding older woman/younger man relationships.
Prompted by this shift in the demographics of modern relationships, a team of sociologists at the University of Maine set about investigating the reality of older women wedded to younger men2.