You didn't give them the wow factor of a sexy visage, flying cartwheels, and butterflies. A guy has to enter online dating with the realization he has to kiss lots of toads to find a princess.
In other words, you weren't the 'magical unicorn' she thought she may have been getting. There is no way to spot someone emotionally damaged unless you spend quality time with them other than the initial meet and greet over a cup of coffee. Same deal for a woman..has to kiss lots of toads to discover her prince. At your age you will likely find a better selection of potential dates in class, at parties, at the gym, and while generally out-and-about.
(not that there is anything wrong with them i just lost the will to try and fight for them) also is there a way i can stop myself from liking those kind of women? How do you know after one date they are "emotionally damaged"?
To love someone who is broken is to break a little yourself.
But if love meant no hurt, no scars and no pain; then what would the point of that love even be?
Sit down beside her if there is nothing she feels like doing.
Stare out of the window with her if there is nothing else she wants to see. Bury your head in her chest when she lies down sluggishly on the bed.
Hold on to her when you hug her so that she knows you are exactly where you want to be—with her.
Slowly, you may realize that she will hold on to you, too.
It has to be gentle and cautious, yet, urgent and aggressive.
To her broken soul, it’s not just a kiss; it’s a peak into her soul, her heart and all her hidden desires. You need to be slow, earnest, passionate and absolute with her in the moment that you kiss her.
She is just trying so hard not to hurt that it’s hurting you.