Leave all electronics, plans and obligations behind and give each other the gift of escape.
What we’re trying to say is, being in a relationship be wonderful this time of year, provided your actions are appropriate given the amount of time you’ve been together.
So before you start planning your first kiss under the mistletoe, here are some rules to remember at all stages of your relationship.
” feeling that comes from getting dumped in the holiday crush.
Research gathered by the British data-journalist and information designer David Mc Candless (based on Facebook data related to breakups) clearly shows that there are annual peaks for when relationships end: Two weeks before Christmas and Christmas itself are two of the seven annual peaks for romances to crumble.
Increasing those actions during the holidays can help deepen love so that it grows roots into the new year and beyond.
Another way to keep up the energy of love is to focus on having a good time together.
(Other romance bombs include Valentine’s Day, spring break, April Fool’s day, springtime Mondays and the peak of the summer season.) Why would a happy holiday time be so deadly for love?
Mc Candless’ partner, Lee Byron, offered this in an interview: “Perhaps some combination of seasonal affect disorder and a case of the Mondays has warped the idea of you meeting their family over the holidays into something horrid.” (The first Monday of December is the most dicey for a romance’s survival.) One thing that can lead to these holiday breakups is the increased frequency of cheating. Bonnie Weil, explains, “One of the main reasons people have affairs is to counteract feelings of stress, separation or loss and the holidays can bring these feelings up at once.” Whatever personal motivations put a strain on romances throughout the year, dividing time between families and social obligations during the holidays can test the affection of any couple trying to date during the December month of madness.
To maintain your bond: share your thoughts, ask questions and explain decisions.
Reach out to your partner to talk, discuss and make choices together.
If you’re falling in love beware: December can be a real romance killer.