Said simply, both sides will do things to entrench the other side exactly where they’re at. Moreover, he can always say, “Well, we were never in an official relationship. then you’re in a “placeholder relationship.” To be honest, there’s nothing wrong with that IF both sides are on the same page.
Unfortunately, I have yet to see an instance where both sides are on the same side.
What ends up happening is that the guy will make sure the girl has hope to keep chasing him.
The girl will make sure that he’s as emotionally dependent on him as she can get him to be.
Look, dudes…if you need a dick in your ass, you are Gay (or Bi). I learned a lot about masculinity by watching my cats.
The non neutered ones in my yard are built like little tanks.
So now we’re at this point: Girl has poured months or of love and obsession into this guy, hoping he’ll one day come around.
Guy has become emotionally dependent on the girl for her love and support, but he knows in his heart that the situation isn’t what he actually wants.
I have an online dating profile, and the frequency with which guys messaged me, no matter how approachable or hostile my profile was from week to week, never reduced until I added this to it: Bear in mind, this is an Israeli dating site that is a known “meat market”.
People feel free to be very explicit even above the bounds of this being a “dugri” (read Klingon like) culture.
And here’s where it gets really perverse: On some level, both parties know that if the guy gets into a place of true emotional strength and independence, he’ll leave the girl.